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Wedding Rehearsal Dinner
Traditionally the groom’s family hosts this event though
today many of the traditional rules of weddings are replaced
by the more relevant needs of modern families. For instance
a more financially stable bride and groom may host their own
rehearsal dinner. It is also appropriate for the families on
both sides to jointly host this dinner. Whatever you decide
to do make sure that all involved parties understand who is
going to host or you may have a dilemma the night before the
wedding with no one taking care of this fun but important event.
Part of the fun of the rehearsal dinner is that it doesn’t
have to be as formal and stiff as the actual wedding. Yes, this
is a time to go over the ceremony and everyone’s role
in it. But the actual rehearsal shouldn’t take more than
45-90 minutes. Keep in mind that the parts don’t have
to be perfected during this time, rather you want to outline
the next days ceremony so that everyone is clear on when and
how things are going to happen. The rest of the evening should
be spent hanging out together in a relaxed atmosphere.
Relaxing and having a good time should be the goal of the dinner
portion of the night. If your families feel most comfortable
at a steakhouse then that is where the dinner should be held.
I had a wonderful time at my sister and brother in law’s
rehearsal dinner that was held at his parents house. Everyone
was gathered for a simple, serve yourself dinner and then we
all sat around the living room talking about what would take
place the next day. It was a great time to meet cousins, grandparents
and other family members we weren’t so well acquainted
with. Whatever you decide to do make sure you are able to have
a good time and that this can be part a positive wedding experience.
Traditional Elements
Toasting: This is a great opportunity to thank your loved ones
-- there probably won't be time to publicly toast everyone at
the wedding reception itself. The groom's father or mohter often
goes to bat first, toasting his soon-to-be daughter-in-law and
her family; the groom also says a few words. In exchange the
brides parent will toast the groom and his family.
Giving gifts: You may choose to give your
attendants their thank-you gifts at this shindig. Make sure
to also present your parents and anyone else who was an integral
part of the wedding-planning process with a token of your appreciation
-- flowers, a nice bottle of wine, or even a huge hug will do.
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